However, the next time you see a shaky, vertical video of two people having the worst day of their lives, stop before you comment. Ask yourself: Would I want the worst three minutes of my relationship broadcast to 10 million strangers?

Typically, the video starts innocuously. A bystander notices a couple acting in a way that deviates from social norms. Perhaps they are arguing loudly at a red light, engaging in PDA (Public Displays of Affection) that is considered “too aggressive,” or, in the most extreme cases, navigating infidelity in public. The camera starts rolling, and within hours, the clip is stitched, remixed, and captioned.

Let the couple sort out their mess in private. That is the one place the algorithm hasn’t colonized. Yet. Have you ever witnessed a public couple’s argument and filmed it? Or have you been the couple “caught” on video? Share your thoughts below, but remember: be kind, or be quiet.